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  At This Point In Time Would You Ever Subject Yourself To A Judicial Committee?

  by minimus in

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  i certainly wouldn't.

  and if the elders wanted to have a meeting with me, i would respectfully decline.

  if the elders wanted to deal with you, would you talk with them?.

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  Feeling sad over a wasted life in watchtower

  by wannaexit in

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  it's been 12 years since i first read ray franz's books and the scales came off my eyes.

  by that time i was in my forties.. since 2002 i went back to school and have worked with 3 very professional organizations.

  but my biological clock is ticking away and while my peers are looking forward to retirement, i am only beginning.

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  “While my peers are looking forward to retirement, I am only beginning.” wannaexit

  “I don't actually know who the "real me" is, or who I should be.........” stuckinarut2

  Given the choice I would take the blue pill every time. I just wish I knew I had a choice sooner. I was a fully indoctrinated JW for 42 years. I woke up when I was 52 years old. Now my husband is two years away from retirement. I am 56 years old, and it is just not economically feasible for me to get a college degree and start a career at this late date. There are so many things I would like to do, but having no highr education is a huge roadblock.

  I feel like there will never be a beginning for me. I’m feeling pretty lost and can fully relate to stuckinarut2. I see a Buddhist psychologist and am working acceptance. Mindfulness practices help. Ultimately, I woke up because there was no way I was going to shun my son. My daughter is having a baby, my first grandchild, a boy. I have what is most important to me—my kids. I am tremendously grateful for that. Hopefully I have a few decades of freedom in front of me.

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  What Assembly were you baptized at...

  by vilot in

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  i was baptized at the 1976 "sacret secret" dc at inglewood ca there must have been 50,000 people there..

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  I think its very interesting how young in age , so many were dunked , I was about 21 and my new wife was about 19.

  Just as a side point , how and why could children so young be allowed to commit themselves to a decision that can mean life or death to them.?

  In most civilized countries you cant make decisions about your life until you have reached the age of 18 or 21 .

  You cant drive a car , you cant vote , you cant drink alcohol , etc. Yet if your bapized at 13 or 12 or even younger you have the maturity and ability to make a life or death decision as to whether you will have a blood transfusion , whether to accept blood fractions or not , whether you can have an organ transplant or not , and so on . Doesnt this highlight the stupidity of this religion ? JW adults have trouble understanding these beleifs.

  Jesus set the example of being baptized at 30 years of age , a man who could make mature decisions that affected his life .So why baptize children?

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  My husband and I were saying exactly this just yesterday.

  I was baptised in Natick, MA, USA in 1976 when I was 16 years old.

  My husband was baptised in Jamestown, NY USA in 1965 when he was 14 years old.
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  Interview with an “Unbelieving Mate (UBM)”: Frazzled

  by Frazzled UBM in

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  in honour of jgnat i have completed her template:.

  is your wife still an active witness?

  no thankfuly - she has only been to the memorail, a convention and the kh once this year and has done none of that for at least 6 months.

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  Frazzled, thank you for your candid post and for honoring jgnat's contribution to this forum in this way. Crangratulations on the great progress you have made with your wife and your marriage! You are right-- open communication is paramount.
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  Zone Visit: An Announcement That Will "Test Your Faith"

  by breakfast of champions in

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  this is the scuttlebutt in one of the "bethel congregations" by us.. no details as to exactly what this "faith-testing" announcement might be.. anyone else hear any of this pre-zone visit hype?.

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  If the "inactive" are "blood guilty", isn't it a short leap to being "disassociated by their actions" and worthy of shunning. Now that would be a "test of faith", especially for family members.
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  Help

  by Horseygirl12 in

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  im so frustrated i could kill myself right now!!

  im 15 and a couple weeks ago i confessed to my parents that i didn't want to be a jehovahs witness anymore and also that i was bisexual.

  i had just gotten back from an eating disorder clinic and my parents decided to put me back in school (i was homeschooling before).

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  (((Horseygirl)))

  I have been suicidal. I had two mantras that got me through the darkest hours:

  1. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

  2. Suicide is not an option.

  Please follow the advice that has been given-- see your primary care doctor or a mental health professional and tell them everything. Don't hold anything back. They will be able to give you the help you so desparately need and deserve. Please let us know how you are doing!
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  one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

  by MissFit in

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  we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

  i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

  i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

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  It all happened so fast for me. I was at a service meeting when I woke up emotionally. I spent the next six weeks reviewing all of my doctrinal issues in my mind, not conferring with anyone-- there were many. (I wish I had saved all the letters I wrote to Bethel over my 42 year tenure.) I decided I was done, but kept my word to take another JW to the DC. I remember thinking I was surrounded by The Stepford Wives and literally laughed out loud when they said 'the toes in Daniel's dream image mean nothing!' That was July 4th weekend. I didn't begin researching TTAT until that fall. In two weeks' time I knew I had made the right decision!

  My husband faded 30 years before I did. He didn't learn TTAT until a year after I walked away. He is still working on being emotionally free. His parents are still uber dubs. He was a born in and is still not fully deprogrammed.
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  Do you remember the 15 minute break at the Sun. meeting?

  by 3rdgen in

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  a poster on another thread reminded me of when there was a 15 min.

  break between the talk and the wt study on sundays.

  the break was supposed to be to allow jw's time to drive their bible studys home from the talk.

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  My family started studying in 1969. I remember the book studies being conducted in a mobile home (Babylon the Great Has Fallen, followed by Then is Finished the Mystery of God.) My dad was a smoker and a police officer. He had to give up both, and that was his undoing. Being a K-9 officer was tbe best thing he ever did. Mom thoroughly opposed anyone coming into her home and telling her what to do. Smart woman! Dad eventually caved to her hatred for all things JW, but believed it to be the truth until his death in 1992. I was the only one to become a JW out of five kids. I chose a cult over crazy and dysfunctional. They do target the vulnerable!
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  Complex PTSD and Ex JW's

  by JRK in

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  i have been diagnosed with complex ptsd by my therapist due to events of abandonment and abuse as a child.

  the cult experience of being raised as one of jehovah's witness was a major factor.

  i think that the sparlock video and the conti case has brought emotional flashbacks to some of us here, so i wanted to post information that i have found helpful.

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  Thanks for posting the Facebook link and for BTT, Watchtower-Free!

  My previous therapist told me she would have diagnosed me as having C-PTSD if it had made it into the DSM-5. I'm currently seeing a Buddhist psychologist, practicing Insight Meditation, studying tai chi and qigong and taking a MBSR course. Somatic healing therapies are key.
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  Jehovanomics RULE #2: Bequest Of Property.

  by Jehovanomics in

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  cashing in on death.

  death is payday for the jehovah witnesses.

  it's what they celebrate.

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  My in-laws have millions in assets. My husband helped build those properties as he grew up and was written out of their will decades ago when he left the organization. The WBT$ takes all. They say they "don't want or need anything" from us. "Everything is all set. Communication would be nice, but is not necessary." so they say. I have no intention of speaking to them ever again. They shun their son and our children and have questioned whether I go to meetings. They don't deserve an answer to that question. My husband doubts he will even be informed of their deaths. So be it.

  Welcome Jehovanomics!